Hi everyone!
I’d like to apologize for not being responsive over the past two months. I had a lot going on with school and other aspects of my life so I was unable to respond right away— but that is going to change.
My 2013 resolution is to help as many people I can. With that being said, please feel free to come to me for any reason at all— big or small. I’m here to help you and be someone that you can feel comfortable confiding in.
Although some of the questions you asked may no longer be relevant to your lives anymore, I will still respond to them and I hope that however you decided to approach whatever situation turned out for the best.
I love you guys and I hope you have been having a splendid holiday season.
Lots of love,
Lola<3
Anonymous: hi lola, I'm in a stage where I don't know what is right or wrong. I'm 17 and I've been going to heaps of parties where there's alcohol. As much as I want to try it I've always been against underage drinking, but lately I've been thinking that I'm only 17 once so I might as well enjoy it. I'm scared that I'm going against my morals though and I just need advice on what to do. Please help xoxo
Hey, this is Lola’s friend! I want you to think about why underage drinking is a moral of yours. Upon thinking about that, you may get a better perspective on whether or not you should drink.
I hope this helps, come back for follow up advice!
Anonymous: hey lola, it's been about 2 weeks since i've started talking to this guy and recently we went to the movies and hooked up. i'm not quite sure if i have feelings for him yet though but it seems like he does for me. i regret kissing him because i want to get to know him more first as just friends. i don't know what to do please help xx
Hi love!
My advice to you is to tell him exactly what you have told me just now (well, not exactly). If you’re unsure as to whether or not you having feelings about him, which is totally understandable considering the short amount of time that you’ve known each other, you should let him know that that is how you feel so he doesn’t feel that you are leading him on. Don’t regret it, because whatever you did then was your decision at the time. Let him know that you truly want to get to know him before anything happens, he should be understanding.
Then, once you get to know him better and are sure of your feelings, take it from there.
Keep me posted! XOXO
Lots of love,
Lola<3
Anonymous: hey, i've come to you like heaps of times for advice, and i wanted to say thanks! you give really good advice and all the advice you have given me has really helped! xox
Ahhh do you even realize how happy this information makes me?! This put the biggest smile on my face.
Thank you so much. That is literally my sole mission in life, to give people advice that can help them in any way.
Please feel free to come to me anytime for anything at all :)
Have a lovely evening and an even lovelier week.
Lots of love,
Lola<3
Anonymous: recently i have gotten a boyfriend, and as nice and as perfect as he is. i cant help but all of a sudden feel dull. like i feel everythings changing but i dont want too change. and it has nothing to do with him. i just have no clue whats going on anymore :( please help. xox
This is kinda related to the question I just answered.
Tell me if I’m wrong, but I think that you liked the idea of having a boyfriend more than having one. Sometimes when you’re in a relationship you can lose that flirty feel that made you start liking them in the first place.
I think that you need to take some time to yourself and really get in touch with yourself. Find out your likes and dislikes and learn who you are. When you do, that is the time to be in a relationship and that’s when you won’t feel tied down when you’re with the perfect person, because you’ll be ready.
Hope this helped,
Lots of love,
Lola<3
Anonymous: hey, so my best friends are twins and we do like everything together, but sometimes when they do stuff with our other friends i kinda feel left out. it hardly happens but like today they went to the beach with our other friend and it was on fb and stuff and i kinda felt left out. i did get invited though but i couldnt go. then i always feel upset when this kinda stuff happens, what can i do ?? x
Since they did invite you, you should know that they do enjoy spending time with you and they wanted you to be there. I can cope with you on the fact that you weren’t able to go, growing up I wasn’t able to go to a lot of events that my friends were going to but through that you learn who your real friends are and who you are (that’s just an aside).
But back to your question, it always sucks when you have to miss out on a hangout opportunity with your friends, but there’s always another day to hangout with them. If they are neglecting you, you need to tell them so they are aware of that, because they probably just aren’t realizing it.
I wouldn’t worry too much if I were you, but I hope my advice helped you out!
Lots of love,
Lola<3
Anonymous: hi there is this guy that ive known for like 3 years and i really liked him and my friend told him that the other day so he asked me out (over fb though) but as soon as he asked me out i started to feel weird. we're not together now because i told him im not ready for a bf and he understood. but im confused, i want a bf but when i get close to it i feel that im not ready! (im 13) idk if im hormonal or something but im so confused !!!!!
This is completely normal!! You want someone’s admiration and attention but you once you get it, you don’t feel the way you thought you would. The truth is, you’re not ready for a boyfriend. It’s ok to flirt and whatnot, but 13 is really young and you shouldn’t have to be in a committed relationship at that age. There’s plenty of time for relationships, just have fun! When that guy comes around that you find you really like, go for it! For now, just see what you like and enjoy your youth and really get to know yourself.
Lots of love,
Lola<3
Anonymous: i have no clue what 'head' and 'blowjob' and stuff means :/ could you help? or give me a blog that has definitions of this stuff?
Anonymous: what do you think is a good age to start wearing makeup?
It really depends. I didn’t start applying makeup until near the ends of eighth grade, but I still didn’t put much on other than some mascara and a little purple eyeliner under my eyes. It seems as though a lot of girls have started to put on heavy makeup around the ages of 11 and twelve, and I think that is way too young, personally. When you start to wear too much makeup, your skin takes a hit as well.
If you have clear skin, don’t bother with any face makeup. Just put on some light eye makeup. As you get older and go to high school, that is the time to experiment with makeup and see what looks best on you.
Hope this helped!
Lots of love,
Lola<3
Anonymous: please please please help! how do i ask my mum if i can shave my legs? i find it so embarrassing to talk about that stuff since we arent that close. please help!!!
Not gonna lie, I had this same problem growing up! It can be hard to ask your parents things when you’re almost sure they’re gonna say no, but it’s always worth a shot. If you’re asking this question, then you are probably at the age where most other girls are shaving their legs and you feel like you should too. Which is definitely understandable! Talk to her when she is in a good mood and tell her how uncomfortable you feel about your leg hair. Let her know just how much it would mean to you. If she says no, don’t nag her because that never works with moms (which you probably know by now :p). Just try again another time, and eventually she’ll have to say yes. She’s obviously a girl herself, so she can also relate to being uncomfortable with leg hair.
Good luck! If you need advice regarding anything else let me know!
Lots of love,
Lola<3
Anonymous: Well, there is this guy who recently broke up with my best friend, and we kind of have a thing, but I'm afraid he's just using me to have sex or something ... I just want to know if you think this is wrong? And what could I do to ask him if he's just using me but like not, if that makes sense? Help? :/
Hey doll,
It’s not generally a good idea to go after someone who was going out with one of your friends. Especially if its your best friend. It sounds to me like you’re already friends with benefits?
I think you definitely need to do some talking with your best friend, and this guy. Ask your bff is she’s over him and see where that conversation goes and how she responds to your questions. Talk to the guy and try to see where his head is at. Tell him how much this could cost your friendship and if its all going to end up in dust then he needs to tell you know if he has feelings for you or not.
Weigh out the pros and cons before you make any decision as to where you want to take this relationship, and the cost that could possibly have on your friendship.
Let me know if there is anything else I can do to help!
Lots of love,
Lola<3
